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I can Motivate Myself .I am the creator of My Own self ,How? Part-6

I can Motivate Myself. I am the Creator of My Own Self, How Part 6.

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When you want to know how to get motivated, meditation should be your go-to.

Not only does meditation remove many of the mental obstacles that stop you from feeling positive and motivated, but it also focuses your energy so you can get things done.  Many motivational speakers like Tony Robbins have touted the importance of meditation for success in life, and for good reason.

Sometimes we are all lazy. Sometimes we need help overcoming procrastination.

But if you have been lacking motivation and energy it probably is not because you are a lazy person. It is more likely because you need to understand what motivation is and how to get more of it. And perhaps you also need to remove the negative energy from your life.

After reading this article you will be able to know the next 5 ways to keep yourself motivated from the series of  “100 ways to motivate yourself”.

This article is the 6th series of – ” I can Motivate myself. I am the creator of My Own Self, How?

Yes, You heard it right,  You can Motivate Yourself.

This article is published in a series of 5 ways of self-motivation and covers 100 ways to self-Motivation.

 

How many times have you become overwhelmed by emotions – so completely ruled by them – that in anger or desperation, you make a terrible decision that you later end up regretting?
Or how many times has something as simple as “waking up on the wrong side of the bed” completely ruined what could
have been an otherwise pleasant day?

Here are the five ways to self-motivation through mindfulness and meditation-

  1. The ego is your inner narrator or your sense of “I.” It’s the voice that tells you what to do.
    We hear the word “ego” quite often. Your spouse might call you egoistic; your best friend calling you egocentric, and someone blaming personal shortcomings on the ego.                                                                                                                          But the ego is far more nuanced than we give it credit. In our everyday interactions, we often refer to the ego as the source of pride, conceit, and amour propre, or self-love.To most, the ego is the source of behavior that is self-serving or unconcerned with the well-being of others. For few people, the ego represents a psychological mechanism that mediates between their morality and base desires.
    But these definitions of ego still don’t get to the heart of the matter. We can talk about deep desire or fiery pride, but we still can’t explain what’s going on in our heads when we do strange things like open the fridge without actually being hungry.
    A better way to think of your ego – and certainly one that offers you the most insight into your behavior – is as the voice in your head.
    Your ego comments on your actions and behavior from the moment you open your eyes in the morning until you drift off to sleep at night, telling you what to do and what not to do.
    This isn’t the kind of “voice in your head” that is attributed to psychosis. Rather, you can think of it as a voice that manifests through your thoughts.
    For example, your ego is the voice that tells you “I’m way too tired for the gym” even when you know that you could really stand to break a sweat. It’s what makes you obsessively check your emails a thousand times per day, or gaze into the
    refrigerator even when you aren’t hungry.
    As you’ll see, the ego is responsible for a great deal of what you do. Luckily, taking steps to rein your ego in can make us happier and healthier.

Your ego’s ravenous hunger for more can never be satiated. It will always push you further.

The ego is never satisfied. It will always want, it will never be content and it will never be perfectly happy. By design, the ego will always want more than it already has. When the ego is “fed” a new thing, this simply resets the baseline for desire; and immediately, the ego begins reaching for something more.

It doesn’t matter how many material possessions you have, nor does it matter how much money you’ve spent acquiring them – even if you don’t need it, you still yearn for the newest sports car or that hot new gadget.

The best meals are not satisfying, even when prepared by the best chefs. Soon you’ll become hungry and yearn for a meal that is even tastier than the last. In essence, no matter how many times you try to satiate your ego’s desires, your ego will
only want more.
The ego is obsessed with the past and the future, and in its obsession, neglects the present, thus keeping you from fully living in the now.
The ego loves especially to dwell in the past and thrives on drama by keeping old wounds open. It’s the reason that you complain to your spouse about a work problem at dinner, and it’s what causes you to lament being jilted by your first love at 17, despite being happily married today.

Your ego constantly assesses your worth against the appearance, wealth, and social status of others, but will always find you failing. No matter how smart, beautiful or wealthy you may be, according to your ego, there’s always someone smarter, more
beautiful or wealthier.
Thus, your ego will spur you to continually strive to become that “better” person.
But after achieving what your ego wants, will you be happy?

No. The ego is never happy. Just think of all the rich, famous, or fortunate people who have committed suicide, become addicted to drugs, or otherwise ruined their lives.
The next way will show you how you can use meditation to calm your ego and improve your life with motivation.

 

2.Control your ego by practicing mindfulness and becoming more compassionate toward others.

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When we practice meditation, we learn a valuable skill called mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the ability to respond – and not react – to our surroundings as well as our impulses.

Meditation increases our mindfulness by instructing us to immerse ourselves fully in the present moment, and not to be overwhelmed with life’s stressors.

For instance, when a publisher told an author that he would never become an all-time hit author, he used his newfound mindfulness to respond rather than react. He didn’t let his ego and anger control him, but instead calmly asked the publisher how he could improve his work to become an all-time hit author.

Mindfulness doesn’t just improve our decision-making; it also changes our biology. A Harvard MRI study observed that people who had taken an eight-week mindfulness course through meditation had developed thicker gray matter in the areas of the brain associated with self-awareness and compassion. Likewise, mindfulness training appeared to shrink the regions in the brain associated with stress.
This increase in compassionate behavior, that is, practicing concern for your own well-being and the well-being of others, is not something to be overlooked.
Demonstrating compassion toward yourself improves your decision-making by allowing you to forgive yourself for mistakes and accept your flaws. In fact, studies have demonstrated that people trained in self-compassion meditation are more likely
to demonstrate healthy behavior, such as quitting smoking or eating healthier.
Likewise, being compassionate toward others actually helps you to become a more fulfilled person.
One study asked participants for a few days to wear tape recorders that would record their conversations. The recordings verified that participants who practiced meditation were more empathic, spent more time with other people, laughed more, and used the word “I” less.

Indeed, we can use compassion for others to our own advantage. As the Dalai Lama put it: “Be wise selfish rather than foolish selfish”.

3.You don’t need to lose your edge or become a pushover when you tame your ego.

Some people dread the Buddhist concept of “letting go,” as they see it as going soft or becoming ineffective – an act of capitulation.
For example, the American author and psychotherapist Marc Epstein often recounts the story of his Buddhist patients who denied themselves orgasms during sex or refused to place an order themselves at restaurants as a means of not expressing a personal preference.
Obviously, this sort of behavior did not make them happier people!

Controlling your ego does not mean forgetting about your own needs and becoming a pushover.

An Indian meditation teacher named Munindra advised all of his students to keep things “simple and easy.” One day, a student saw his teacher fiercely negotiating over a bag of peanuts in the village marketplace. When the student confronted him over his behavior, what he thought was a contradiction to the simple-and-easy-mantra, Munindra replied: “I said to be simple, not a simpleton!”

Controlling your ego does not mean that you have to lose your edge or stop being a productive member of society.
In fact, according to Professor Jon Kabat-Zinn, practicing mindfulness actually makes you more creative and more productive, as it clears your mind of unhelpful assumptions and routines, thus making space for new ideas and thoughts.
During a ten-day meditation retreat, a person was flooded with ideas with which he filled entire notebooks. He was more productive in this time of peace and mindfulness than normally when his mind is cluttered and chaotic.
Interestingly, one of the most important discoveries that the person made on his journey to tame his ego was that high levels of stress or the need for the competition weren’t necessary to fuel his drive.
Quite the contrary: he found that it was a much more satisfying exercise to control these urges than to indulge in them.

4. Meditation is a simple way to increase mindfulness and compassion in everyday life.

Silhouette of Man at Daytime

At this point, we’ve talked quite a lot about meditation. But what is it exactly?
In essence, when you meditate, you sit comfortably and focus on your own breath.
During this time, your mind will inevitably wander off to other things. That’s okay! When this happens, simply refocus your mind on your breathing without judgment.
The nice thing about meditation is that you don’t need anything to get started – anyone can meditate anywhere.

So, meditation is easy. But what’s in it for you? Why should you bother?

For starters, meditation increases mindfulness by teaching us to view the contents of our minds with nonjudgmental distance. According to Buddhist teachings, we have three habitual responses to everything we experience:

We want it. Think about that gut-level desire to eat a delicious cookie.
We reject it. Imagine swatting at annoying mosquitos.
We zone out. Have you ever listened to a flight attendant’s safety instructions all the way through? Yeah, right.

Mindfulness gives us a fourth option: we observe without judgment.
Your first experience with mindfulness during meditation often happens when you experience some sort of uncomfortable situation, like an itchy nose or sore legs. In these cases, you simply observe the pain with impartiality and without reacting or moving.
Eventually, you’ll be able to apply mindfulness to more complex discomforts: your thoughts and emotions.

In addition, meditation increases your compassion. In the month after someone adds conscious compassion to his meditation practice, he began to see changes in his life: he finds that he is not only kinder to others, but also to himself.
For example, he will be better able to avoid gossip at work, become more empathetic toward others, and feels less annoyed by their shortcomings.

5.Accept your negative emotions, then separate yourself from them through non-identification.

Monk Meditating

Meditation is not only good for the mind; it also can have profound positive effects on the body.

Humans still haven’t shed the “fight or flight” instinct, triggered in times of danger. While modern life has changed our daily threats, however, from prowling tigers to highway traffic, how stress affects our body hasn’t changed. Constant stimulation keeps us in a state of overload, which causes high levels of toxic stress chemicals to accumulate in our blood.

However, studies have shown that meditation can actually reverse the effects of these stress chemicals, by lowering blood pressure and thus reducing the risk of heart disease.
Research also suggests that the mindfulness practiced during meditation can spill into everyday life, leading to increased patience, empathy, and compassion.
Imagine that you are stuck in a traffic jam on your way to work. Normally, you might react angrily and impatiently, punching your steering wheel and thinking: “Why is this happening to me?!”
However, once you have practiced mindfulness, you will simply observe these thoughts and let them pass without becoming consumed by them. You will not react but respond with sober calmness.

Other studies have shown even more obvious health benefits.
Meditation can also be beneficial in battling major depression, drug addiction, binge eating, and smoking. It can help cancer patients better handle stress and senior citizens avoid loneliness. Meditation can also stem from the effects of ADHD, asthma, psoriasis, and even irritable bowel syndrome.

Finally, meditation allows you to sculpt the one tool you have for perceiving and experiencing the world: your brain. Indeed, studies have shown that training your brain through meditation can improve your resilience, impulse control, and your overall
level of well-being.
Yet meditation cannot rid your mind of negative thoughts altogether. But as the final book summary will show, it can still help you deal with those thoughts.

Meditation, however, is not a cure-all. So what should you do to help stem the influence of negative emotions?

Photo of Man Leaning on Wooden Table

Psychotherapist and Buddhist teacher Tara Brach suggests that you simply acknowledge your negative feelings – that is, admit that you’re experiencing them, rather than deny them.

The Buddhists teach that we should “let go,” but what they really mean, is “let it be.” Instead of denying “ugly” characteristics or negative feelings, just let them be without judging yourself for having them.

Another Buddhist saying is that “the only way out is through.” Imagine those negative feelings as an immense wave coming right toward you. The best way not to drown is to dive into the wave, thus causing it to lose its power.

There are more proactive ways of dealing with negative emotions. According to Brach’s teachings, there are four stages to accepting these feelings.

First, you must recognize the emotion, then allow it to exist, investigate its effects and finally separate yourself from it through the practice of non-identification.
I  practiced this when I was concerned about a promotion. First, I recognized that I was worried. Next, I convinced myself that it was okay to be worried. Then I investigated how my body was handling the worry; I felt a buzzing in my chest.

And finally, I practiced non-identification, telling myself that I am bigger than my momentary concerns and that the moment would pass.
By recognizing that my fears over a promotion would not turn me into a habitually worried person, I was able to separate myself from my emotions and conquer my ego.

Our modern lives push us into a constant state of stress and panic, and this has major consequences on our
mental and physical health. We can combat this stress through the practice of meditation, which can ultimately
lead to a more compassionate, fulfilling, and productive lifestyle.
Actionable advice:
Increase your compassion through “metta meditation.”
Picture yourself clearly in your mind and repeat the following phrases: May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be
safe, may you live with ease. Then repeat the same sentences or mantra, this time imagining a benefactor, a dear friend, a
neutral person, a person with whom you have difficulties, and finally, all living beings.

Conclusion-

Our modern lives push us into a constant state of stress and panic, and this has major consequences on our
mental and physical health. We can combat this stress through the practice of meditation, which can ultimately
lead to a more compassionate, fulfilling, and productive lifestyle.

Actionable advice:
Increase your compassion through “metta meditation.”
Picture yourself clearly in your mind and repeat the following phrases: May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be safe, may you live with ease. Then repeat the same sentences or mantra, this time imagining a benefactor, a dear friend, a
neutral person, a person with whom you have difficulties, and finally, all living beings.

Just be tuned for more ways to be self-motivated.

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