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Motivate Yourself
You are the Creator of Yourself.

 

I can Motivate Myself. I am the creator of my Own Self. How ? Part-5

 

 

Yes You can, motivational inspirational message concept written on the sand at sea beach.

Selfmotivation is the inner force that keeps us moving or pushes us to move forward – it’s our internal drive to achieve, produce, develop, and remain on track. When you think you’re ready to quit something, or you just don’t know how to start, your selfmotivation is what pushes you to move on.

 

After reading this article you will be able to know the next 5 ways to keep yourself motivated from the series of  “100 ways to motivate yourself”.

This article is the 5th series of – ” I can Motivate myself. I am the creator of My Own Self, How?

Yes, You heard it right,  You can Motivate Yourself.

This article is published in a series of 5 ways of self-motivation and covers 100 ways to self-Motivation.

  1.   Ask yourself, Is your television helping you ? or Misloading you, just Kill it.
  2.  You have your own soul cage, break out of it.
  3. Be the player yourself and run your own plays.
  4. You are an Einstein in yourself, just awaken it up.
  5. Your fear increases your fear, till you run away from it, just run towards it.                   

Positive thinking is closely related to self-confidence as a factor in self-motivation. It’s important to look at things positively, especially when things aren’t going as planned and you’re ready to give up.

If you think that things are going to go wrong or that you won’t succeed, this may influence things in such a way that your predictions will come true. This is particularly the case if you need to work hard to achieve success, or if you need to persuade others to support you in order to succeed. Your thoughts can have a major influence on whether you succeed or fail, so make sure those thoughts are “on your side.”

Positive thinking also helps you think about an attractive future that you want to realize. When you expect positive results, your choices will be more positive, and you’ll be less likely to leave outcomes to fate or chance. Having a vivid picture of success, combined with positive thinking, helps you bridge the gap between wanting something and going out to get it.

 

I can
I Can DO it.

 

Vivek Kumar
Self-motivation doesn’t come naturally to everyone. And even those who are highly self-motivated need some extra help every now and then- Vivek Kumar

 

Let’s dwell on the Five Ways to Self Motivation-

  1. Ask yourself, Is your television helping you ? or Misloading you, just Kill it.

One day I saw someone wearing a T-Shirt written on it “Kill Your Television. I started thinking about it. I found  people giving strange  look at the person wearing that T-Shirt.

After a lot of thinking I asked myself this question “Is My television really helping me ? or Misloading me with wrong and unnecessary information’s”.

You can actually change your life by turning off your television. Maybe just one evening a week, to start with. What would happens if you stopped trying to find life in other people’s shows and let your own life become the show you got hooked on?

Cutting down on television is sometimes terrifying to the electronically addicted, but don’t be afraid. You can detox slowly. If you’re watching too much television and you know it, you might find it useful to ask this one question:

“Which side of the glass do I want to live on?”

When you are watching television you are watching other people do what they love doing for a living. Those people are on the smarter side of the glass, because they are having fun, and you are passively watching them have fun. They are getting money, and you are not.

There’s nothing wrong with occasionally watching other people do what they love doing. But the average household now does this for seven hours a day! Are they living on the side of the glass that will advance their lives?

Here’s a good test for you to determine if television motivates you more than books do:

Try to remember what you watched on television a month ago. Think hard. What effect are those shows having on the inspired side of your brain? Now think about the book that you read a month ago. Or even the e-Magazine you read last week. Which made a more valuable and lasting impression?

Which form of entertainment better leads you in the direction of self-motivation?

Today the growing fascination with going online is an improvement over television, especially if you interact. Communicating inside thoughtful chat rooms and sending and receiving e-mail both grow the brain.

Television does the opposite.

Groucho Marx once said he found television very educational. “Every time someone turns it on,” he said, “I go in the other room to read a book.

 

  1.  You have your own soul cage, break out of it.

We always have our own limits, We look around us and see what others are doing and accordingly we form our own limits. We get disappointed by others achievements and very rarely we think that we can always cross our own limits. It’s all in the mind.

 

Our society encourages us to seek comfort. Most products and services advertised day and night are designed to make us more comfortable and less challenged. And yet, only challenge causes growth. Only challenge will test our skills and make us better. Only challenge and the self-motivation to engage the challenge will transform us. Every challenge we face is an opportunity to create a more skillful self.

So it is up to you to constantly look for challenges to motivate yourself with. And it’s up to you to notice when you’re buried alive in a comfort zone. It’s up to you to notice when you are spending your life, in the image of the poet William Olsen, like a
flower “living under the wind.”

Use your comfort zones to rest in, not to live in. Use them consciously
to relax and restore your energy as you mentally prepare for your next
challenge. But if you use comfort zones to live in forever, they become
what rock singer Sting calls your “soul cages.” Break free. Fly away.
Experience what the philosopher Fichte meant when he said, “Being
free is nothing. Becoming free is heavenly.”

 

3. Be the player yourself and run your own plays.

Life is a Game, Just press start your life. It’s your game and you are the player,

Life is a Game
Life is a Game

Design your own life’s game plan. Let the game respond to you rather than the other way around. Be like MS. Dhoni, the former Indian cricket captain , who always made his decisions count. Everybody thought he was a kind of eccentric because of how extensively he planned his plays in advance of each game. Most captains would wait to see how the game unfolded, then respond with plays that reacted to the other team. Not MS.Dhoni.

You can create your own plans in advance so that your life will respond to you. If you can hold the thought that at all times your life is either a creation or a reaction, you can continually remind yourself to be creating and planning.

“Creation” and “reaction” have the same letters in them,
exactly; they are anagrams. (Perhaps that’s why people slip so easily out
of one and into the other.)

Many of us can spend whole days reacting without being aware of it.
We wake up reacting to news on the clock radio. Then we react to feelings in our body. Then we start reacting to our spouses or our children. Soon we get in the car and react to traffic, honking the horn and using sign language. Then, at work, we see an e-mail on our computer screen and react to that. We react to stupid customers and insensitive bosses who are intruding on our day. During a break, we react to a waitress at lunch.

This habit of reacting can go on all day, every day. We become goalies
in the hockey game of life, with pucks flying at us incessantly.

It’s time to play another position. It’s time to fly across the ice with the
puck on our own stick ready to shoot at another goal.

Robert Fritz, who has written some of the most profound and useful books on the differences between creating and reacting, says, “When your life itself becomes the subject matter of the creative process, a very different experience of life opens to you—one in which you are involved with life at its very essence.”

Plan your day the way MS.Dhoni planned his Cricket games. See the tasks ahead as plays you’re going to run. You’ll feel involved in your life at its very essence, because you’ll be encouraging the world to respond to you. If you don’t choose to do that, the life you get won’t be an accident. As an old Jewish folk saying puts it, “A person who does not
make a choice makes a choice.” and the choice is his own in both the cases.

 

4. You are an Einstein in yourself, just awaken it up.

Every time I  see a picture of Albert Einstein, I realize that that’s
actually me.

I See Albert Einstein and say, “there I am.”

Every human has the capacity for some form of genius. You don’t have to be good with math or physics to experience genius level in your thinking. To experience Einstein’s creative level of thinking, all you have to do is habitually use your imagination.

This is a difficult recommendation for adults to follow, though, because adults have become accustomed to using their imaginations for only one thing: worrying.

Adults visualize worst-case scenarios all day long. All their energy for visualization is channeled into colorful pictures of what they dread.

What they don’t comprehend is that worry is a misuse of the imagination. The human imagination was designed for better things.

People who use their imaginations to create with, often achieve things that worriers never dream of achieving, even if the worriers possess much higher IQs.

People who habitually access their imaginations are
often hailed by their colleagues as “geniuses”—as if “genius” was a
genetic characteristic. They would be better understood as people who
are practiced at accessing their genius.

Recognition of the power of this genius in all of us prompted Napoleon
to say, “Imagination rules the world.”

As a child, you instinctively used your imagination as it was intended.

You daydreamed and made stuff up. You were a daydream believer by day and in your right brain at night you sailed down a river of dreams.

If you go back into that state of self-confidence and dream again, you’ll
be pleasantly surprised at how many innovative and immediate solutions
you come up with to your problems.

Einstein used to say, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
When I first heard he’d said that, I didn’t know what he meant.

I always thought additional knowledge was the answer to every difficult problem.

I thought if I could just learn a few more important things, then I’d be
okay.

What I didn’t realize was that the very thing I needed to learn was
not knowledge, but skill.

What I needed to learn was the skill of proactively using my imagination.

And once I’d learned that skill, the first task was to begin imagining the vision of who I wanted to be.

Song writer Fred Knipe once wrote a song about this. It was for the soundtrack of a video produced for teenagers about how to visualize themselves succeeding at what they wanted to do:

“That’s you  in your wildest dreams

doing the wildest things

no one else can do.

If you just love and keep those dreams the wildest dreams , you’ll make yourself come true.”

To make ourselves come true we need to develop the strength to dream.
Dreaming, in its proactive sense, is strong work. It’s the design stage of creating the future. It takes confidence and it takes courage. But the greatest thing about active dreaming is not in the eventual reaching of the goal—the greatest thing is what it does to the dreamer.

Forget the literal attainment of your dream for now. Focus on just going
for it. By simply going for the dream, you make yourself come true.

 

5.Your fear increases your fear, till you run away from it, just run towards it. 

Have you ever noticed dogs going behind you till you try to run away from them, as soon as you stop and try facing them, they will retreat and go back.

So try not to run away from the danger , rather , face it and find ways to overcome it.

The world’s best-kept secret is that on the other side of your fear there is something safe and beneficial waiting for you.

If you pass through even a thin curtain of fear you will increase the confidence you have in your ability to create your life.

General George Patton said, “Fear kills more people than death.” Death kills us but once, and we usually don’t even know it. But fear kills us over and over again, subtly at times and brutally at others. But if we keep trying to avoid our fears, they will chase us down like the persistent dogs. The worst thing we can do is close our eyes and pretend they don’t exist.

“Fear and pain,” says psychologist Nathaniel Branden, “should be
treated as signals not to close our eyes but to open them wider.” By
closing our eyes we end up in the darkest of comfort zones—buried
alive.

Janis Joplin’s biography, which chronicled her death from alcohol and
drug abuse, was aptly titled Buried Alive.

To Janis, as to so many similarly troubled people, alcohol provided an artificial and tragically temporary antidote to fear. It is no accident that in the old frontier days
the nickname for whiskey was “false courage.”

There was a time in my life, not too many years ago, when my greatest fear of all was public speaking. It didn’t even help that fear of speaking in front of people was people’s number one fear, even greater than the fear of death. This fact once caused comedian Jerry Seinfeld to point out that most people would rather be in the coffin than delivering the eulogy.

For me, it ran even deeper than that. As a child I could not give oral book reports. I’d plead with my teachers to let me off the hook. I would offer to do two, even three written book reports if I didn’t have to do the oral one.

Yet as my life went on, I wanted to be a public speaker more than anything. My dream was to teach people everywhere to learn the ideas that lead to self-motivation, the ideas that I had learned. But how could I ever do this if stage fright left me frozen with fear?

Then one day as I saw a saying written on my school notice board, “Run toward
your fear! Run right at it!” .

Deep down I knew that I had just read something I needed to
hear. No matter what station I turned to, all I could remember was those words: “Run toward your fear!”

The next day I still couldn’t get it out of my mind, so I called a friend of
mine who was an orator and morning school assembly news reader. I asked him to help me get into a personality development  class he had once told me about. I told him I thought I was ready to overcome my fear of performing in front of people.

Although I lived in a high state of anxiety the first weeks of that class, there was no other way around my fear. There was no real way to run from it any longer, because the more I ran, the more pervasive it got. I knew I had to turn around and run toward the fear or I would never pass through it.

Emerson once said, “The greater part of courage is having done it
before,” and that soon became true of my speaking in public. Fear of
doing it can only be cured by doing it. And soon my confidence was
built by doing it again and again.

The rush we get after running through the waterfall of fear is the most
energizing feeling in the world.

whenever you are  in an undermotivated mood, find something you fear and
do it—and watch what happens.

 

Conclusion

Motivation is just within you, do not find it outside you. Do not depend on other channels like television or social media, Spend some time talking to yourself, give yourself the extra room to organize your thoughts. Break out of your own soul cage, feel free. run your own plays and have trust on your abilities.

Never let the Past hinder your present and never be very concerned about the future. If you can shape your present, your future is well secured, and your past can only motivate you.

You are your own Einstein, everyone is genius in something, you just need to find the genius within you. Your fear will defeat you ,if you run away from it, you can win your fear only by accepting the challenge and by running towards it.

 

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Self-Motivation Tips To Transform Your Life | Courses That Change

Many of us find ourselves in motivational slumps that we have to work to get out of.

Sometimes it’s like a continuous cycle where we are motivated for a period of time, fall out, and then have to build things back up again.

There is nothing more powerful for self-motivation than the right attitude. You can’t choose or control your circumstance, but you can choose your attitude towards your circumstances.

How I see this working is while you’re developing these mental steps, and utilizing them regularly, self-motivation will come naturally when you need it.

 

 

Vivek Kumar-Communication Skills Trainer
The purpose of Motivation is for self” So find it within and not outside you. Vivek Kumar

After reading this article you will be able to know the next 5 ways to keep yourself motivated from the series of  “100 ways to motivate yourself”.

This article is the 4th series of – ” I can Motivate myself. I am the creator of My Own Self, How?

Yes, You heard it right,  You can Motivate Yourself.

This article is published in a series of 5 ways of self-motivation and covers 100 ways to self-Motivation.

  1. Choose happy Few.
  2. Learn to Play a Role.
  3. Sit quietly and Talk to yourself. Stop For some time and do Nothing.
  4. Use The chemicals produced by your body, Yes, your brain chemicals
  5. Learn to lose your cool.

Self-motivation is the force that keeps driving us to achieve, improve, and move forward.

Self-motivation helps you to learn and grow – regardless of how difficult the situation is. That’s why self-motivated is such an essential tool to assist you in achieving goals and dreams.

Self-motivation is connected to how much you believe that you could achieve those targets with the skills and abilities you possess; and your expectation that if you put in enough hard work, you will succeed. In order to build the strongest levels of self-motivation, you’ll need “Self-confidence and self-efficacy.”, “Positive thinking, in the present and about the future.”, “Focus and strong goals.”  and also, “A motivating environment.”

Positive thinking is closely related to self-confidence as a factor in self-motivation. It’s crucial to treat things positively, especially when things aren’t going the way you would expect and ready to give up.

If you think that things are not going in the correct direction or that you are not even close to success, those thoughts may influence attitude in such a way that your predictions will come true. Your judgments can have a key influence on how you are going to perform, so make sure that your thoughts are positive all-time.

Positive thinking drives you to think about an attractive future that you want to realize. When you presume positive outcomes, your selections will be more optimistic, and you’ll be more likely to work hard towards your goals which helps you bridge the gap between wanting something and going out to get it. Moreover, research shows happiness increases productivity and makes you more successful

Self-motivation doesn’t come naturally to everyone. And even those who are highly self-motivated need some extra help every now and then. Your attitude and beliefs can dramatically influence the likelihood of your success.

Examine ways to improve your self-motivation, and regularly reassess your motivation levels. If you actively keep your internal motivation high, you can drastically increase the likelihood of achieving your hopes, dreams, and visions of the future.

The last thing to address is surrounding yourself with people share the same visions that remind you of your objectives, then help you with your inner motivation. These are exterior influences that could potentially get you motivated from the outside. Nevertheless, you always want more factors you have working for you.

Motivated to succeed
The Harder You work for something, the greater you will feel when you achieve it”

 

Let’s dwell on the Five Ways to Self Motivation-

Choose the happy few.

Just, walk away from friends who don’t support the changes in your life. Do it very Politely.

There will be friends who will not like you changing. They will be jealous and afraid every time you make a change. They will see your new motivation as a condemnation of their own lack of it. In many ways, they will bring you back down to who you used to be. Identify such friends and family members who do this. Actually, They do not know, what to do?

The people you spend time with will change your life in one way or another. If you associate with cynics, they’ll pull you down with them. If you associate with people who support you in being happy and successful, you will have a head start on being happy and successful. Throughout the day we have many choices regarding who we are going to be with and talk to. Don’t just be attracted to the coffee machine and participate in the negative gossip because it’s the only game in town. It will drain your energy and decrease your own optimism. We all know who lifts us up, and we all know who brings us down. It’s okay to start being more careful about to whom we give our time.

In his inspiring book “Spontaneous Healing”, Andrew Weil recommends:

“Make a list of friends and acquaintances in whose company you feel more alive, happier, more optimistic. Pick one whom you will spend sometime this week.”

According to a philosopher

“If I were to wish for anything, I should not wish for wealth and power, but for the passionate sense of the potential, for the eye which, ever young and ardent, sees the possible. Pleasure disappoints, possibility never.”

Learn to play a role

Your personality does not decide your future. In fact, your personality is not even determined by your personality. There is no such code in you that determines who you will be. You are the thinker who determines who you will be. How you act is who you become.

Enroll in some acting class, it would help you deal with your overwhelming stage fright. You will learn something much more valuable than how to relax in front of a crowd. You will learn that your emotions were tools for you to use, not demonic forces. You will learn that your emotions were yours to work with and change at will.

Playing a role lets you enter into a character and you get a chance to live the life of someone you are acting as, feel the character and try to visualize yourself living the full character. This experience of acting will let you know that the audience thinks, you just like the character you played in the drama. The audience is unknown to your actual self, so actually, you have given birth to your new personality as a character in the drama.

Thus this experiment will definitely make you convinced that your personality and character are not a born gift, rather it is something that you can develop in yourself by practicing and following your life consciously.

 

Sit quietly and Talk to yourself. Stop For some time and do Nothing.

For a long time, all by yourself, sit quietly, absolutely alone. Completely relax. Don’t allow the television or music to be on. Just be with yourself. Watch for what happens. Feel your sense of belonging to the silence. Observe insights starting to appear. Observe your relationship with yourself starting to get better and softer and more comfortable.

Sitting quietly allows your true dream life to give you hints and flashes of motivation. In this information-rich, interactive, civilized life today, you are either living your dream or living someone else’s. And unless you give your own dream the time and space it needs to formulate itself, you’ll spend the better part of your life simply helping others make their dreams come true. “All of man’s troubles,” said Blaise Pascal, “stem from his inability to sit alone, quietly, in a room for any length of time.” Notice that he did not say some of the man’s troubles, but all.

Once, during a discussion, a person asked me, “Why is it that I get my best ideas when I’m in the shower?” I just asked the person, “When else during your day are you alone with yourself, without any distractions?” As the person was honest, he answered, obviously never.

Great ideas come to us in the shower when it’s the only time in the day when we’re completely alone. No television, no movies, no traffic, no radio, no family, no talkative pets—nothing to distract our mind from
conversing with itself.

“Thinking,” said Plato, “is the soul talking to itself.” People worry they will die of boredom or fear if they are alone for any length of time. Other people have become so distraction-addicted that they would consider sitting alone by themselves like being in a sensory deprivation tank.

The truth is that the only real motivation we ever experience is self-motivation that comes from within. And being alone with ourselves will always give us motivating ideas if we stay with the process long
enough. The best way to truly understand the world is to remove yourself from it. Psychic entropy—the seesaw mood swing between boredom and anxiety—occurs when you allow yourself to become confused by massive input. By being perpetually busy, glued to your cell phone, out the world all day with no time to reflect, you will guarantee yourself an eventual overwhelming sense of confusion.

The cure is simple and painless. The process is uncomplicated. You do not need to leave your room,

“Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen. Simply wait. Do not
even wait. Be quite still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” In other words, don’t just do something…sit there.

 

Use The chemicals produced by your body, Yes, your brain chemicals-

There are drugs that you can use to motivate yourself with and I’m not talking about amphetamine or crack (a deadly form of child’s play). Instead, you can get into those energizing chemicals in your system that gets activated when you laugh…or sing…or dance…or run…or hug someone. When you’re having fun, your body chemistry changes and you get new biochemical surges of motivation and energy.

And there isn’t anything you do that can’t be transformed into something interesting and uplifting. Victor Frankl has written startling accounts of his life in the Nazi concentration camps, and how some prisoners created new universes unto themselves inside their own minds. It might sound absurd, but truly imaginative people can access their inner chemical creativity in the loneliness of a prison cell. Don’t keep trying to go outside yourself searching for something that’s fun. It’s not out there anywhere. It’s inside. The opportunity for fun is in your own energy system—your synergy of heart and mind. That’s where you’ll find it.

Pro Football Hall of Famer Fran Tarkenton recommends looking at any task you do as fun.
“If it’s not fun,” he says, “you’re not doing it right.”

People who get high on marijuana often find they can laugh at anything.
The problem with them is that they think this kind of “fun” is inherent in marijuana. It’s not. The capacity for fun was already there inside of them. The marijuana just artificially opened them up to it. But the
physical and psychological price paid for such a drugged opening is not worth the high. (I wish I didn’t know this first hand, but I do.) The price drug users pay is this: Their self-esteem suffers because they didn’t create the fun they had—they thought the drugs did it for them. So they keep shrinking, the more they use, into greater paranoia and self-disgust. Soon they’re using the drug just to feel normal.
William Burroughs, a former drug addict and author of Naked Lunch, discovered something that was very interesting and bitterly amusing to him after finally recovering from his addictions.
“There isn’t any feeling you can get on drugs,” he said “that you can’t
get without drugs.”

Make a commitment to yourself to find the natural highs you need to stay motivated. Start by finding out what it does to your mood and energy to laugh, to sing, to dance, to walk, to run, to hug someone, or to get something done. Then support your experiments by telling yourself that you’re not
interested in doing anything that isn’t fun. If you can’t immediately see the fun in something, find a way to create it. Once you have made a task fun, you have solved the problem of self-motivation.

Learn to lose your cool

You can create a self that doesn’t care that much about what people think. You can motivate yourself by leaving the painful self-consciousness of high school behind. Because our tendency is to go so far in the timid, non-assertive direction, it might be a profitable over-correction to adopt these internal commands: Look bad. Take a risk. Lose face. Be yourself. Share yourself with someone. Open up. Be vulnerable. Be human. Leave your comfort zone. Get honest. Experience the fear. Do it anyway.

“Show me a guy who’s afraid to look bad,” said actor Rene Auberjonois,
“and I’ll show you a guy you can beat every time.” The first time I ever talked to my author and psychotherapist friend regarding my self-confidence, over the telephone, and he agreed to work with me on building my own self-confidence and personal growth. It wasn’t long into the phone conversation before he asked me about my voice. “I am very interested in your voice,” he said, with a tone of curiosity.
Hoping he might be ready to give me a compliment I asked her to explain.
“Well,” he said. “It’s so lifeless. A real monotone. I wonder why that is.”

Embarrassed, I had no explanation.   I was completely unaware and very surprised that it
seemed to her that I was coming across a voice like someone out of Night of the Living Dead.

The truth was that during that period in my life, I was living scared. Things weren’t going well for me financially, I had serious health problems in my family, and I had that mildly suicidal feeling that accompanies an increasing sense of powerlessness over one’s problems.

(I now think one way a lot of men hide their fears is by assuming a
macho kind of dull indifference. I know now that’s what I had done.
That a psychotherapist could hear it immediately in my voice was
unnerving, though.)

Trying to understand why I covered fear with indifference, I remembered that back in my high school the “cool” guys were always the least enthusiastic guys. They spoke in monotones, emulating their heroes. Shailendra was the coolest of all. He was so indifferent and unenthusiastic you couldn’t even understand
him when he spoke. One of the first homework assignments Devers my friend gave me was to
rent the video Gone with the Wind and study how fearlessly Clark Gable revealed his female side. This sounded weird to me. Gable a female? I knew Gable was always considered a true “man’s man” in all
those old movies, so I couldn’t understand what my friend was talking about, or how it would help me.
But when I watched the movie, it became strangely clear. Clark Gable allowed himself such a huge emotional range of expression, that I could actually identify scenes where he was revealing a distinctly female side to his character’s personality. Did it make him less manly? No. Curiously, it made him more real, and more compelling. From that time on, I lost my desire to hide behind an indifferent
monotonous person. I committed myself to get on the road to creating a
self that included

a wider range of expression, without a nervous preoccupation with coming off like a man’s man.
I also started noticing how much we seem to love vulnerability in others but don’t trust it in ourselves.
But we can learn to trust it! Just a little at first. Then we can build that vulnerability until we’re not
afraid to open up into an ever-widening spectrum of self-revelation. By
losing face, we connect to the real excitement of life. And what if I don’t always come off as an indifferent man’s man? Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.

Conclusion-

Motivation is just, within you, do not find it outside you. Spend some time talking to yourself, give yourself the extra room to organize your thoughts. Never let the Past hinder your present and never be very concerned about the future. If you can shape your present, your future is well secured, and your past can only motivate you.

 

Just be tuned for more ways to be self-motivated.

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Self-Motivation Tips To Transform Your Life | Courses That Change

Feeling bad many times is natural.

Do you feel bad about yourself?

Do people behave like mean to you?

Do you feel afraid of taking chances and doing what truly makes you happy, so you often conform to other people’s opinions just to fit in?

If the answer to any of the above questions is a “Yes”.

I can help you, read this article in full to start feeling happy about Yourself and the way’s to keep yourself motivated.

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Don’t be sad. Be happy instead. Happiness is what everyone should achieve in life while avoiding stressful situations, uncomfortable emotions, and challenging obstacles. Despite what people who actually study the human mind and behavior say, these are not things that strengthen your mindset, develop quality habits, shape your personality, and make you a stronger individual. Some call these people scientists, some call them experts. But what is really true is a matter of discussion.

Always be happy, because having any other emotion is just unnatural. Criticism is something very, very bad. It’s not something you can learn from to improve yourself. It’s not significant if 90% of people hate what you’re doing. It’s not important if you could do things differently and achieve a better effect. Why?

Because you’re awesome. Everybody is awesome. If you’re alive, you’re awesome. You don’t become an awesome person by doing good deeds, advancing your skills and knowledge, putting in hard work, and developing yourself into a smart, capable, and interesting individual.

If people hate talking to you and avoid social contact, don’t think something might be wrong with you. Maybe you talk too much? Maybe you’re too judgmental? Maybe you don’t have anything important to say? Forget these things. Remember, you’re awesome just for being you. You don’t have any bad traits. There are no flaws in your behavior. There is no room for improvement.

You’re perfect just the way, you are.

Find an idea. Go ahead and convert this idea into a project? Think of writing a book, Starting a business, YouTube channel, Blog. Go for it. I’m sure it’s a unique, never-been-done-before idea. thave rust on your Idea. Your every idea is amazing because, as we’ve learned, you’re awesome and criticism is bad. If you could actually learn something from criticism, it would mean that it is not necessarily bad. And that’s just crazy.

Market survey says that 9/10 startups fail and that almost half of them fail because there was no market need for their product or service. In other words, nobody was interested in their idea in the first place. But those brave souls refused to listen to the haters and kept going. The final outcome is not relevant.

Let’s pull up some survey of our own. Spoiler alert – they are going to blow your mind:

  • Walt Disney was fired because his boss felt he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”
  • Oprah Winfrey was publicly fired from her first television job for getting “too emotionally invested in her stories”
  • Steven Spielberg was rejected by the School of Cinematic Arts multiple times
  • Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything”
  • Jay-Z couldn’t get any record label to sign him

All these people later went on to become extremely successful and well-known in their respective fields. They didn’t listen to what others told them and they didn’t let the haters discourage them. They kept pushing until they achieved their dreams.

This, of course, doesn’t mean that they failed many, many, many times before succeeding. It doesn’t mean that they had hundreds of shit ideas before finding one that was actually good. It also doesn’t mean they are exceptionable people who spent endless hours, months, and years perfecting their craft, thinking of new ideas, learning, and evolving from criticism and making sacrifices for a better future.

The only thing that we can learn from these fun facts is that they were just normal, ordinary people – like you. If they could do it, why couldn’t you? If you want it hard enough, you’ll definitely be successful one day (regardless of how much work you actually put in).

Why? Because you’re awesome.

 

As we have seen, how important It is to be happy, let’s dwell on the five way’s to be Self Motivated.

 

  1. Find your master key to success- 
  2. Put your library on wheels.
  3. Plan your work.
  4. Bounce your thoughts.
  5. Break Down Your Work into small pieces and light your lazy dynamite.

 

Find Your Master Key To success

I used to have the feeling that everyone else in life had at one time or another been issued instruction books on how to make life work. And I, for some reason, wasn’t there when they passed them out. I felt a little like the Spanish poet Cesar Vallejo, who wrote, “Well, on the day I was born, God was sick.” Still struggling in my late-30s with a pessimistic outlook and no sense of purpose, I voiced my frustration once to a friend of mine, who recommended a book to me. Until that time, I didn’t really believe that there could be a book that could tell you how to make your life work.

The name of the book was “Good to Great” by “Jim C. Collins”. It sat on my shelf for quite a while. I didn’t believe in motivational books or self-help. They were weak and fools. I was finally persuaded to read the book by the word Great in the title. Greatness would be a welcome addition to my life. Being Great at what I do is probably what I needed to be happy and wipe out my troubles. What the book actually did was a lot more than increase my earning capacity (although by practicing the principles in the book, my earnings doubled in less than a year). Jim C. Collin’s advice ultimately sparked a fire in me that changed my entire life. I soon acquired an ability that I would later realize was self-motivation.  After reading that book, I read the books of Napoleon Hill’s. I also began buying motivational audiobooks for listening to in my transit time and for playing by my bed as I went to sleep each night. Everything I had learned in school, in college, and from my family and friends was out the window. Without fully understanding it, I was engaged in the process of completely rebuilding my own thinking. I was, thought by thought, replacing the old cynical and passive orientation to life with a new optimistic, and energetic outlook.

So, what is this master key to success?

“The great master key to success,” as said by Napoleon Hill, “is nothing more or less than the self-discipline necessary to help you take full and complete possession of your own mind. Remember, it is profoundly significant that the only thing over which you have complete control is your own mental attitude.”

Taking complete possession of my own mind would be a lifelong adventure, but it was one that I was excited about beginning.

Maybe The book Good to Great will not be your own master key, but I promise you that you’ll find an instruction book on how to make your life work if you keep looking and how to transform yourself from the level of being good to being great. It might be The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, The Last Word in Power by Tracy Goss, Frankenstein’s Castle by Colin Wilson, or The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. All those books would have worked the primary transformation for me, and they have all taken me higher up the motivational ladder. Your own key might even come from the spiritual literature of your choice. You’ll find it when you’re ready to seek. It’s out there waiting for you.

 

Put your library on wheels-

One of the greatest opportunities for motivating yourself today lies in the way you use your transit time. It may be when you are on the way to your office or back, maybe when you are waiting for someone, or any other time when you are actually not working.

There is no longer any excuse for the time in the car to be downtime or frustrating or time that isn’t motivating. With the huge variety of audiotapes and CDs now available, you can use your time on the road to educate and motivate yourself at the same time. When we use our time in the car to simply listen to hip-hop or to curse traffic, we are undermining our own frame of mind. Moreover, by listening to tabloid-type “news” programs for too long a period of time, we actually get a distorted view of life. News programs today have one goal: to shock or sadden the listener. The most vulgar and horrific stories around the state and nation are searched for and found.
I experienced this first hand when I stayed with one of my friends who worked for a daily newspaper. I saw him getting frustrated if there were no murders or rapes that day. I watched him tore through the wire stories to see if a news item from another state could be good enough to save the front page. If there’s no drowning, they’ll reluctantly go with a near-drowning. There is nothing wrong with this. It’s not immoral or unethical. It feeds the public’s hunger for the bad news. It’s exactly what people want, so, in a way, it is a service. But it reaches its most damaging proportions when the average listener to a car radio believes that all this bad news is a true and fair reflection of what’s happening in the world. It’s not. It is deliberately selected to spice up the broadcast and keep people listening. It is designed to create fear because horrified people are a riveted audience and advertisers like it that way.

If we would be more selective with how we program our minds while we are driving, we could have some exciting breakthroughs in two important areas: knowledge and motivation. There are now hundreds of audio book series on self-motivation, on how to use the Internet, on health, on goal setting, and on all the useful subjects that we need to think about if we’re going to grow.

As Emerson once said, “We become what we think about all day long.” (I first heard that sentence, a few days ago, while driving in my car listening to an Earl Nightingale audio program suggested by my Mentor (Mr.Siddharth Rajsekhar). If we leave what we think about a chance, or to a radio station, then we lose a large measure of control over our own minds. Many people today drive a great deal of time. With motivational and educational audio books, it has been estimated that drivers can receive the equivalent of a full semester in college with three months’ worth of driving. Most libraries have large sections devoted to audiobooks, and all the best and all the current audiobooks are now available on Internet bookseller sites.

Are all motivational programs effective? No. Some might not move you at all. That’s why it’s good to read customer reviews before buying an audio program over the Internet. But there have been so many times when great motivational audio played in my car has had a positive impact on my frame of mind and my ability to live and work with enthusiasm. One moment stands out in my memory above all others, although there have been hundreds. I was driving in my car one day listening to Wayne Dyer’s classic audio series, Choosing Your Own Greatness. At the end of a long, moving argument for not making our happiness dependent on some material object hanging out there in our future, Dyer said, “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

That one thought eased itself into my mind at that moment and never left it. It is not an “original” thought, but Dyer’s gentle presentation, so filled with serene joy and so effortlessly spoken, changed me in a way that no ancient volume of wisdom ever could have. That’s one of the powers of the audiobook form of learning: It simulates an extremely intimate one-on-one experience. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Caroline Myss, Barbara Sher, Tom Peters, Nathaniel Branden, Earl Nightingale, Alan Watts, and Anthony Robbins are just a few motivators whose tapes have changed my life. You’ll find your own favorites. You don’t have to find time to go read at the library. Forget the library. You are already driving one.

 

Plan Your Work-

There is no perfect time to start something. If you plan and you are ready to execute, all time is a perfect time.

Some of us may think we’re too depressed right now to start on a new course of personal motivation. Or we’re too angry. Or we’re too upset about certain problems. But Napoleon Hill insisted that that’s the perfect time to learn one of life’s most unusual rules: “There is one unbeatable rule for the mastery
of sorrows and disappointments, and that is the transmutation of those emotional frustrations through definitely planned work. It is a rule which has no equal.”

Once we get the picture of who we want to be, “definitely planned work” is the next step on the path. Definitely planned work inspires the energy of purpose. Without it, we suffer from a weird kind of intention deficit disorder. We’re short on intention. We don’t know where we’re going or what we’re up to.

Thus, planning your work very important. It is also said that “One hour of planning saves three hours of execution”.

However, most of us don’t feel we have time for that hour of planning. We’re too busy cleaning up yesterday’s problems (that were caused by a lack of planning). We don’t yet see that planning would be the most productive hour we spend. Instead, we wander unconsciously into the workplace and react to crises. (Again, most of which result from a failure to plan.) A carefully planned meeting can take a third of the time that an unplanned free-for-all takes. A carefully planned day can take a third of the time that an unplanned free-for-all day takes.

I know a person who manages a large sales staff at a major radio station. His success in life was moderate until he discovered the principle of definitely planned work. Now he spends two hours each
Weekend on his computer planning the week ahead. “It’s made all the difference in the world,” he said. “Not only do I get three times the work done, but I feel so in control. The week feels like my week. The work feels like my work. My life feels like my life.” It is impossible to work with a definite sense of purpose and be depressed at the same time. Carefully planned work will motivate you to do more and worry less.

 

Bounce Your Thoughts.

Thoughts can be bounced and habits can be formed.

Think of basketball players, who have just started to learn playing basketball, you know that most of them have a tendency to dribble with only one hand—the one attached to their dominant arm.
When you as a coach notice some player doing this, you might call him aside and say,
“Hey, you’re dribbling with just the one hand every time, and the defender can easily defend you when you do that. Your options are cut off. You need to dribble with your other hand, too, so that he never knows which way you’re going to go.” At this point, the player might say, “I can’t.” And you smile and say, “What do you mean you can’t?”And the player then shows you that when he dribbles with his subdominant (weaker) hand and arm, the ball is all over the place. So, to his mind, he can’t.

“Hey,” you say. “It’s not that you can’t, it’s just that you haven’t.” Then you explain to the player that his other hand can dribble just as well if he is willing to practice. It’s just a matter of logging enough bounces. It’s the simple formation of a habit. After enough practice dribbling with his other hand, the player will learn you were right.

The same principle is true for reprogramming our own dominant habits of thinking. If our dominant thought habit is pessimistic, all we have to do is dribble with the other hand: Think optimistic thoughts more and more often until it feels natural. If someone had asked me (before I started my journey
Of self-motivation that began with Jim C. Collin) why I didn’t try to be more goal-oriented and optimistic, I would have said, “I can’t. It’s just not me. I wouldn’t know how.” But it would have been more accurate
For me to just say, “I haven’t.” Thinking is just like bouncing the basketball. On the one hand, I can think pessimistically and build that side of me up (it’s just a matter of repeatedly bouncing those thoughts). On the other hand, I can think optimistically—one thought at a time—and build that habit up.
Self-motivation is all a matter of how much in control you want to be.

According to some research, we humans have up to 45,000 thoughts a day. I can’t vouch for the accuracy of that figure, especially because I know some people who seem to have no more than nine or 10. However, if it is true that we have 45,000 thoughts, then you can see how patient, we have to be about turning a pessimistic thought habit around.

The overall pattern won’t change after just a few positive bounces of the brain. If you’re a pessimist, your bio-computer has really been programmed heavily in that direction. But it doesn’t take long before a
New patterns can emerge. As a former pessimist myself, I can tell you it really happens, however slowly but surely. You do change. One thought at a time. If you can bounce it one way, you can bounce it the other

Break Down Your Work into small pieces and light your lazy dynamite.

According to Henry Ford, there is no such job that can not be handled if you are willing to break it down into little pieces. And when you’ve broken a job down, remember to allow yourself some slow motion in beginning the first piece. Just take it slow and easy. Because it isn’t important how fast you are doing it. What’s important is that you are doing it. Most of our hardest jobs never seem to get done. The mere thought of doing the whole job, at a high energy level, is frequently too off-putting to allow motivation to occur. But a good way to ease yourself into that motivation is to act as if you
Where the laziest person on the planet.  By accepting that you’re going to make your task in a slow and lazy way, there is no anxiety or dread about getting it started. In fact, you can even have fun by entering into it as if you were in a slow-motion comedy, flowing into the work like a person made of water.
But the paradox is that the slower you start something, the faster you will be finished. When you first think about doing something hard or overwhelming, you are more aware of how you don’t want to do it

In other words, the mental picture you have about the activity, of doing it fast and furious, is not a happy picture. So you think of ways to avoid doing the job altogether.

The thought of starting slowly is an easy thought. And doing it slowly allows you to actually start doing it. Therefore, it gets finished. Another thing that happens when you flow into a project slowly is that
Speed will often overtake you without you forcing it. Just as the natural rhythm inside you will get you in sync with what you are doing. You’ll be surprised how soon your conscious mind stops forcing the action and your subconscious mind supplies you with easy energy. So take your time. Start out lazy. Soon your tasks will be keeping the slow but persistent rhythm. .The dynamite is living inside you. You don’t have to be frenzied about setting it off. It lights just as well to a match struck slowly.

 

So, Stay happy, Stay Motivated, Plan your own destiny. Anything is possible for You,

Yes, You Can Do It.

 

Stay tuned for more ways to motivate yourself in Part 4……..Coming Soon………….

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