Feeling bad many times is natural.
Do you feel bad about yourself?
Do people behave like mean to you?
Do you feel afraid of taking chances and doing what truly makes you happy, so you often conform to other people’s opinions just to fit in?
If the answer to any of the above questions is a “Yes”.
I can help you, read this article in full to start feeling happy about Yourself and the way’s to keep yourself motivated.
Don’t be sad. Be happy instead. Happiness is what everyone should achieve in life while avoiding stressful situations, uncomfortable emotions, and challenging obstacles. Despite what people who actually study the human mind and behavior say, these are not things that strengthen your mindset, develop quality habits, shape your personality, and make you a stronger individual. Some call these people scientists, some call them experts. But what is really true is a matter of discussion.
Always be happy, because having any other emotion is just unnatural. Criticism is something very, very bad. It’s not something you can learn from to improve yourself. It’s not significant if 90% of people hate what you’re doing. It’s not important if you could do things differently and achieve a better effect. Why?
Because you’re awesome. Everybody is awesome. If you’re alive, you’re awesome. You don’t become an awesome person by doing good deeds, advancing your skills and knowledge, putting in hard work, and developing yourself into a smart, capable, and interesting individual.
If people hate talking to you and avoid social contact, don’t think something might be wrong with you. Maybe you talk too much? Maybe you’re too judgmental? Maybe you don’t have anything important to say? Forget these things. Remember, you’re awesome just for being you. You don’t have any bad traits. There are no flaws in your behavior. There is no room for improvement.
You’re perfect just the way, you are.
Find an idea. Go ahead and convert this idea into a project? Think of writing a book, Starting a business, YouTube channel, Blog. Go for it. I’m sure it’s a unique, never-been-done-before idea. thave rust on your Idea. Your every idea is amazing because, as we’ve learned, you’re awesome and criticism is bad. If you could actually learn something from criticism, it would mean that it is not necessarily bad. And that’s just crazy.
Market survey says that 9/10 startups fail and that almost half of them fail because there was no market need for their product or service. In other words, nobody was interested in their idea in the first place. But those brave souls refused to listen to the haters and kept going. The final outcome is not relevant.
Let’s pull up some survey of our own. Spoiler alert – they are going to blow your mind:
- Walt Disney was fired because his boss felt he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”
- Oprah Winfrey was publicly fired from her first television job for getting “too emotionally invested in her stories”
- Steven Spielberg was rejected by the School of Cinematic Arts multiple times
- Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything”
- Jay-Z couldn’t get any record label to sign him
All these people later went on to become extremely successful and well-known in their respective fields. They didn’t listen to what others told them and they didn’t let the haters discourage them. They kept pushing until they achieved their dreams.
This, of course, doesn’t mean that they failed many, many, many times before succeeding. It doesn’t mean that they had hundreds of shit ideas before finding one that was actually good. It also doesn’t mean they are exceptionable people who spent endless hours, months, and years perfecting their craft, thinking of new ideas, learning, and evolving from criticism and making sacrifices for a better future.
The only thing that we can learn from these fun facts is that they were just normal, ordinary people – like you. If they could do it, why couldn’t you? If you want it hard enough, you’ll definitely be successful one day (regardless of how much work you actually put in).
Why? Because you’re awesome.
As we have seen, how important It is to be happy, let’s dwell on the five way’s to be Self Motivated.
- Find your master key to success-
- Put your library on wheels.
- Plan your work.
- Bounce your thoughts.
- Break Down Your Work into small pieces and light your lazy dynamite.
Find Your Master Key To success–
I used to have the feeling that everyone else in life had at one time or another been issued instruction books on how to make life work. And I, for some reason, wasn’t there when they passed them out. I felt a little like the Spanish poet Cesar Vallejo, who wrote, “Well, on the day I was born, God was sick.” Still struggling in my late-30s with a pessimistic outlook and no sense of purpose, I voiced my frustration once to a friend of mine, who recommended a book to me. Until that time, I didn’t really believe that there could be a book that could tell you how to make your life work.
The name of the book was “Good to Great” by “Jim C. Collins”. It sat on my shelf for quite a while. I didn’t believe in motivational books or self-help. They were weak and fools. I was finally persuaded to read the book by the word Great in the title. Greatness would be a welcome addition to my life. Being Great at what I do is probably what I needed to be happy and wipe out my troubles. What the book actually did was a lot more than increase my earning capacity (although by practicing the principles in the book, my earnings doubled in less than a year). Jim C. Collin’s advice ultimately sparked a fire in me that changed my entire life. I soon acquired an ability that I would later realize was self-motivation. After reading that book, I read the books of Napoleon Hill’s. I also began buying motivational audiobooks for listening to in my transit time and for playing by my bed as I went to sleep each night. Everything I had learned in school, in college, and from my family and friends was out the window. Without fully understanding it, I was engaged in the process of completely rebuilding my own thinking. I was, thought by thought, replacing the old cynical and passive orientation to life with a new optimistic, and energetic outlook.
So, what is this master key to success?
“The great master key to success,” as said by Napoleon Hill, “is nothing more or less than the self-discipline necessary to help you take full and complete possession of your own mind. Remember, it is profoundly significant that the only thing over which you have complete control is your own mental attitude.”
Taking complete possession of my own mind would be a lifelong adventure, but it was one that I was excited about beginning.
Maybe The book Good to Great will not be your own master key, but I promise you that you’ll find an instruction book on how to make your life work if you keep looking and how to transform yourself from the level of being good to being great. It might be The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, The Last Word in Power by Tracy Goss, Frankenstein’s Castle by Colin Wilson, or The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. All those books would have worked the primary transformation for me, and they have all taken me higher up the motivational ladder. Your own key might even come from the spiritual literature of your choice. You’ll find it when you’re ready to seek. It’s out there waiting for you.
Put your library on wheels-
One of the greatest opportunities for motivating yourself today lies in the way you use your transit time. It may be when you are on the way to your office or back, maybe when you are waiting for someone, or any other time when you are actually not working.
There is no longer any excuse for the time in the car to be downtime or frustrating or time that isn’t motivating. With the huge variety of audiotapes and CDs now available, you can use your time on the road to educate and motivate yourself at the same time. When we use our time in the car to simply listen to hip-hop or to curse traffic, we are undermining our own frame of mind. Moreover, by listening to tabloid-type “news” programs for too long a period of time, we actually get a distorted view of life. News programs today have one goal: to shock or sadden the listener. The most vulgar and horrific stories around the state and nation are searched for and found.
I experienced this first hand when I stayed with one of my friends who worked for a daily newspaper. I saw him getting frustrated if there were no murders or rapes that day. I watched him tore through the wire stories to see if a news item from another state could be good enough to save the front page. If there’s no drowning, they’ll reluctantly go with a near-drowning. There is nothing wrong with this. It’s not immoral or unethical. It feeds the public’s hunger for the bad news. It’s exactly what people want, so, in a way, it is a service. But it reaches its most damaging proportions when the average listener to a car radio believes that all this bad news is a true and fair reflection of what’s happening in the world. It’s not. It is deliberately selected to spice up the broadcast and keep people listening. It is designed to create fear because horrified people are a riveted audience and advertisers like it that way.
If we would be more selective with how we program our minds while we are driving, we could have some exciting breakthroughs in two important areas: knowledge and motivation. There are now hundreds of audio book series on self-motivation, on how to use the Internet, on health, on goal setting, and on all the useful subjects that we need to think about if we’re going to grow.
As Emerson once said, “We become what we think about all day long.” (I first heard that sentence, a few days ago, while driving in my car listening to an Earl Nightingale audio program suggested by my Mentor (Mr.Siddharth Rajsekhar). If we leave what we think about a chance, or to a radio station, then we lose a large measure of control over our own minds. Many people today drive a great deal of time. With motivational and educational audio books, it has been estimated that drivers can receive the equivalent of a full semester in college with three months’ worth of driving. Most libraries have large sections devoted to audiobooks, and all the best and all the current audiobooks are now available on Internet bookseller sites.
Are all motivational programs effective? No. Some might not move you at all. That’s why it’s good to read customer reviews before buying an audio program over the Internet. But there have been so many times when great motivational audio played in my car has had a positive impact on my frame of mind and my ability to live and work with enthusiasm. One moment stands out in my memory above all others, although there have been hundreds. I was driving in my car one day listening to Wayne Dyer’s classic audio series, Choosing Your Own Greatness. At the end of a long, moving argument for not making our happiness dependent on some material object hanging out there in our future, Dyer said, “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”
That one thought eased itself into my mind at that moment and never left it. It is not an “original” thought, but Dyer’s gentle presentation, so filled with serene joy and so effortlessly spoken, changed me in a way that no ancient volume of wisdom ever could have. That’s one of the powers of the audiobook form of learning: It simulates an extremely intimate one-on-one experience. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Caroline Myss, Barbara Sher, Tom Peters, Nathaniel Branden, Earl Nightingale, Alan Watts, and Anthony Robbins are just a few motivators whose tapes have changed my life. You’ll find your own favorites. You don’t have to find time to go read at the library. Forget the library. You are already driving one.
Plan Your Work-
There is no perfect time to start something. If you plan and you are ready to execute, all time is a perfect time.
Some of us may think we’re too depressed right now to start on a new course of personal motivation. Or we’re too angry. Or we’re too upset about certain problems. But Napoleon Hill insisted that that’s the perfect time to learn one of life’s most unusual rules: “There is one unbeatable rule for the mastery
of sorrows and disappointments, and that is the transmutation of those emotional frustrations through definitely planned work. It is a rule which has no equal.”
Once we get the picture of who we want to be, “definitely planned work” is the next step on the path. Definitely planned work inspires the energy of purpose. Without it, we suffer from a weird kind of intention deficit disorder. We’re short on intention. We don’t know where we’re going or what we’re up to.
Thus, planning your work very important. It is also said that “One hour of planning saves three hours of execution”.
However, most of us don’t feel we have time for that hour of planning. We’re too busy cleaning up yesterday’s problems (that were caused by a lack of planning). We don’t yet see that planning would be the most productive hour we spend. Instead, we wander unconsciously into the workplace and react to crises. (Again, most of which result from a failure to plan.) A carefully planned meeting can take a third of the time that an unplanned free-for-all takes. A carefully planned day can take a third of the time that an unplanned free-for-all day takes.
I know a person who manages a large sales staff at a major radio station. His success in life was moderate until he discovered the principle of definitely planned work. Now he spends two hours each
Weekend on his computer planning the week ahead. “It’s made all the difference in the world,” he said. “Not only do I get three times the work done, but I feel so in control. The week feels like my week. The work feels like my work. My life feels like my life.” It is impossible to work with a definite sense of purpose and be depressed at the same time. Carefully planned work will motivate you to do more and worry less.
Bounce Your Thoughts.
Thoughts can be bounced and habits can be formed.
Think of basketball players, who have just started to learn playing basketball, you know that most of them have a tendency to dribble with only one hand—the one attached to their dominant arm.
When you as a coach notice some player doing this, you might call him aside and say,
“Hey, you’re dribbling with just the one hand every time, and the defender can easily defend you when you do that. Your options are cut off. You need to dribble with your other hand, too, so that he never knows which way you’re going to go.” At this point, the player might say, “I can’t.” And you smile and say, “What do you mean you can’t?”And the player then shows you that when he dribbles with his subdominant (weaker) hand and arm, the ball is all over the place. So, to his mind, he can’t.
“Hey,” you say. “It’s not that you can’t, it’s just that you haven’t.” Then you explain to the player that his other hand can dribble just as well if he is willing to practice. It’s just a matter of logging enough bounces. It’s the simple formation of a habit. After enough practice dribbling with his other hand, the player will learn you were right.
The same principle is true for reprogramming our own dominant habits of thinking. If our dominant thought habit is pessimistic, all we have to do is dribble with the other hand: Think optimistic thoughts more and more often until it feels natural. If someone had asked me (before I started my journey
Of self-motivation that began with Jim C. Collin) why I didn’t try to be more goal-oriented and optimistic, I would have said, “I can’t. It’s just not me. I wouldn’t know how.” But it would have been more accurate
For me to just say, “I haven’t.” Thinking is just like bouncing the basketball. On the one hand, I can think pessimistically and build that side of me up (it’s just a matter of repeatedly bouncing those thoughts). On the other hand, I can think optimistically—one thought at a time—and build that habit up.
Self-motivation is all a matter of how much in control you want to be.
According to some research, we humans have up to 45,000 thoughts a day. I can’t vouch for the accuracy of that figure, especially because I know some people who seem to have no more than nine or 10. However, if it is true that we have 45,000 thoughts, then you can see how patient, we have to be about turning a pessimistic thought habit around.
The overall pattern won’t change after just a few positive bounces of the brain. If you’re a pessimist, your bio-computer has really been programmed heavily in that direction. But it doesn’t take long before a
New patterns can emerge. As a former pessimist myself, I can tell you it really happens, however slowly but surely. You do change. One thought at a time. If you can bounce it one way, you can bounce it the other
Break Down Your Work into small pieces and light your lazy dynamite.
According to Henry Ford, there is no such job that can not be handled if you are willing to break it down into little pieces. And when you’ve broken a job down, remember to allow yourself some slow motion in beginning the first piece. Just take it slow and easy. Because it isn’t important how fast you are doing it. What’s important is that you are doing it. Most of our hardest jobs never seem to get done. The mere thought of doing the whole job, at a high energy level, is frequently too off-putting to allow motivation to occur. But a good way to ease yourself into that motivation is to act as if you
Where the laziest person on the planet. By accepting that you’re going to make your task in a slow and lazy way, there is no anxiety or dread about getting it started. In fact, you can even have fun by entering into it as if you were in a slow-motion comedy, flowing into the work like a person made of water.
But the paradox is that the slower you start something, the faster you will be finished. When you first think about doing something hard or overwhelming, you are more aware of how you don’t want to do it
In other words, the mental picture you have about the activity, of doing it fast and furious, is not a happy picture. So you think of ways to avoid doing the job altogether.
The thought of starting slowly is an easy thought. And doing it slowly allows you to actually start doing it. Therefore, it gets finished. Another thing that happens when you flow into a project slowly is that
Speed will often overtake you without you forcing it. Just as the natural rhythm inside you will get you in sync with what you are doing. You’ll be surprised how soon your conscious mind stops forcing the action and your subconscious mind supplies you with easy energy. So take your time. Start out lazy. Soon your tasks will be keeping the slow but persistent rhythm. .The dynamite is living inside you. You don’t have to be frenzied about setting it off. It lights just as well to a match struck slowly.
So, Stay happy, Stay Motivated, Plan your own destiny. Anything is possible for You,
Yes, You Can Do It.
Stay tuned for more ways to motivate yourself in Part 4……..Coming Soon………….
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